I was having so much fun today reading these “is you who decide, not society”, “blame society for this happening”, “you are what you are not what society wants” and so… Let me tell you something and is not because I’m studying sociology but…
YOU ARE SOCIETY. Every choice is conditioned by society because you grow up and learn in society not by yourself. True is that individualization had come this far so people think that everyone is an isolated part… Which in fact is not true. Since you grow up and learn in society, you learn and reproduce what society wants not what you want… Were you to reproduce something aside, it’d have no sense because you’re the only one that actually is able to understand and also as is not correct, eventually you’d be regulated.
This short explanation also wants to provide you of something important: Culture is based in reproduction so you basically reproduce your culture in your behaviour. The reproducing fact means that also you learn stereotypes, opinions, patterns, values, etc. Since we’re also influenced by western ideal your idea of beauty, good and kind is basically the same. Some (most) of you might think that thin is better, tall is better, strong is better or even straight is better… Why? Because that is the base of the educational system almost everywhere.
As a little conclusion, you might think twice before judging since at the end, you are also part of the same society that you criticizing and one more judge.
Excuse my english, I’m not a native speaker.